THIS IS FOR THE CHILDREN PSALM 112:1-3 EPHESIANS 6:4
1 Praise the LORD. Blessed is the man who fears the LORD, who finds great delight in his commands.
2 His children will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed.
3 Wealth and riches are in his house, and his righteousness endures forever.
4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
One of the favorite things that politicians like to say when working on legislation that will take effect down the line is that they are doing this for the children.
The government school that your child or grand-child attends would like nothing better than to control that child completely including the way you discipline.
Children cannot always articulate their wants and needs but some are evident.
The Bible teaches us that we are not to exasperate or frustrate our children. Rather we are to bring them up in the instruction of the Lord.
ONE: CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THAT THEIR PARENTS LOVE THE LORD AND SERVE HIM.
At Community Church Sunday School the kids expressed their views of "What's wrong with grownups?"
1. Grownups make promises, then they forget all about them.
2. Grownups don't do the things they're always telling the children to do.
3. Grownups never really listen.
4. Grownups make mistakes, but they won't admit them.
5. Grownups interrupt children all the time and think nothing of it.
6. Sometimes grownups punish children unfairly.
7. Grownups never try to think what it's like to be 10 years old right now.
All the words in the world do not matter if a child cannot see and experience their parents loving and serving God.
TWO: CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THEIR PARENTS LOVE EACH OTHER.
The divorce rate in the church in America today is the exact same as it is outside the church. And this statistic has been steady for over 30 years.
Study after study has proven that the best and brightest, the highest performing students in any culture are the students that come from two parent homes where the family has dinner together.
The love languages of children are almost exactly the love languages of adults. few things will exasperate and frustrate children more (Eph 6:4) than petty parents who fuss, fight and fume.
THREE: CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THERE ARE STANDARDS BY WHICH LIFE IS TO BE LIVED AND WHERE THOSE STANDARDS COME FROM.
“Why?” determines the value of the action or instruction.
4 Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one.
5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.
6 These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.
7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.
9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.
This is exactly what our children need today.
If we expect our children to raise children who love the Lord then we must teach the standards and the “where’s and why’s behind them.
FOUR: CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THAT DISCIPLINE IS A WAY OF LIFE.
He who fears the LORD has a secure fortress, and for his children it will be a refuge.
Any man who desires to raise a godly family must make his home a fortress and a refuge for his family. Within the walls of that fort must be discipline.
There is nothing that opens a parent up more for the charge of hypocrisy than waffling on discipline.
Discipline starts in the crib. From consistent bedtimes and naptimes to consistent routines there is a way to teach discipline positively from the day of birth.
One of the most important character markers Timothy was to look for was whether or not the gentleman under consideration was a good manager of his home.
His role in the church was determined by the behavior of his children. How many of us could stand that kind of scrutiny?
The fact is that those who love their kids discipline their kids they do not spoil them.
This message is “for the children”. It is saying to all of us adults on behalf of the kids that if you love your children you will do the following.
A) You and your spouse will love the Lord and serve him with gladness.
B) You and your spouse will openly and freely love each other.
C) You and your spouse will set high standards, live by them and teach the family where the standards come from.
D) You and your spouse will discipline your child with fairness and compassion.